{"id":2423,"date":"2024-02-26T22:57:14","date_gmt":"2024-02-26T22:57:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/doughowe.com\/?p=2423"},"modified":"2024-02-26T23:00:52","modified_gmt":"2024-02-26T23:00:52","slug":"the-coaching-carousel-the-feedback-carousel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/doughowe.com\/?p=2423","title":{"rendered":"The Coaching Carousel, & The Feedback Carousel"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Good morning leaders, clients, and friends,<\/b><\/span><\/h6>

How are you at receiving honest, well-intentioned feedback? What gets in the way of receiving it well? How are you at giving it? What holds you back from receiving it well?<\/p>

Perhaps you\u2019ve heard about the number of high-level College and Pro football coaching positions that have become vacant as several coaches have retired, resigned, been fired, or \u201cmutually went separate ways.\u201d One that retired was Nick Saban <\/strong>of Alabama<\/strong>, and the topic of how we receive and\/or give feedback came up when one of the guys in our mens\u2019 group sent out a Saban quote for us to discuss:<\/p>

\u201cAverage players want to be left alone.
Good players want to be coached.
Great players want to be told the truth.\u201d<\/p>

Most of us would easily agree that feedback is a good thing\u2026but we still often end up in The Feedback Carousel<\/span><\/strong>, where well-intentioned coaching and counsel is received with Defensivitus<\/span><\/strong> and Excusaria<\/span><\/strong> which prompts Elevation and Irritation which leads to Blame-o-Rama<\/strong><\/span> and Deflectionism<\/strong><\/span>, or something else just as unproductive.<\/p>

Other guys in our group had contributions as well:<\/p>

\u201cBe who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.\u201d\u2015<\/strong> Bernard M. Baruch<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cYou can\u2019t go back and change the beginning, but you can start right where you are and change the ending.\u201d \u2013<\/strong> James R. Sherman<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cOnce any leader thinks he knows all of “the truth,” he limits his team and will be constrained by his\/her own blind spots.\u201d \u2013 Jim Dechert<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cHe who hates reproof is stupid.\u201d \u2013 Proverbs 12:1<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cThe way of a man is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.\u201d \u2013 Proverbs 12:15<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cThere are two things people want more than sex and money\u2026 recognition and praise.\u201d \u2013 Mary Kay Ash<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cYou will know good from bad when you are calm, at peace, and passive.\u201d \u2013 Yoda<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cWe all need people who will give us feedback. That\u2019s how we improve.\u201d \u2013 Bill Gates<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cMost of the successful people I\u2019ve known are the ones who do more listening than talking.\u201d \u2015 Bernard M. Baruch<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cCriticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.\u201d \u2013 Winston Churchill<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cAs iron sharpens iron, so one sharpens the countenance of a friend.\u201d \u2013 Proverbs 27:17<\/strong><\/p>

I hope that you\u2019re receiving great feedback from those around you. If you\u2019re not, I hope you can give some focus to move the needle on that. Part of becoming better versions of ourselves is having assists from others.<\/p>

I am grateful for those I work with (and those I’m with in small groups) who are willing to step up and give feedback, and for those who receive it well in the helpful spirit it is intended. I hope it’s a mark of your team(s) as well, and am glad to help if it’s not.<\/p>

Here’s to a great week! -Doug<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Thoughts on the Rocks:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Noblesville:<\/strong> jamntotty@sbcglobal.net<\/span><\/p>